So I’m a little late posting this, but here is an excellent (and grisly) photo essay on the Korean war.
Back then, adoption may have been necessary for some children bereft of family. But comparing those conditions to today, and it’s clear there’s no compelling reason for adoption to exist in Korea. It’s elective. (Adoption and relinquishment are two words that really have no business being used together, in my opinion)
There’s also no reason why Korea can’t take care of its own citizens.
Today, Korea can spend 6.5 million U.S. on sidewalk signage in one district that can take photos of you, email them to your friends, and surf the internet.
Today, Korea sends millions of dollars in charity to third world countries every year. They also send doctors to perform cosmetic surgery on children so they can lead a better life, but Korean children with the same affliction get put in orphanages.
Today, Koreans are spending millions again on programs to integrate foreign brides and migrant workers into society, who will marry full-blood Koreans and produce mixed-race children because there is an exodus of Koreans out of the country and the lowest birth rates in the world, coupled with the highest abortion rates in the world.
Korea has the money. But Koreans are so preoccupied with appearances that they will throw away their own people if they aren’t image enhancing.
So what’s more immoral? That your daughter/sister laid on her back? Or that you forced her to throw away her child, a human being, because it made you look bad? What kind of honor is found in that?
A. None. It’s Korea’s greatest shame, this preoccupation with looking honorable. It turns honor into a lie: not really earned or deserved.
The grisly photos of atrocities against civilians on both sides and the oppression of Korea’s daughters to me suggests the same thing, and that is misspent passive aggressive rage. Rage at being oppressed: by outside forces, by those born with more power, by men. Rage at being divided into unclimbable social strata. Listen to what the old folks have to teach about culture. Don’t listen when they tell you you’ll be better off without your children. I hope the old folks here go to a better place. Let the rage be buried with them. Let us build a better society. Let all young Koreans fight that legacy and create something healthier and more honest.